We all are going through an enormous challenge. Almost every country in the world is now affected by this COVID-19 pandemic. The way we know life has come to a halt. The leaders, scientists, the medical community, and all the essential service providers are working round the clock to keep us safer. The rest of us are asked to do one thing – stay in our homes to help reduce the spread of this highly contagious virus.
In the corporate and businesses, we talk about change regularly – compared to the change we are going through, those seem like a child’s play. Everyone is reacting, coping, adapting in their way – be it a child or an older person. What is different is the magnitude of struggle and sufferings – both internal and external. Neuroscience says uncertainty creates anxiety – when we don’t know what will be next, what is coming in my way, our tension heightens. Like many of the unpleasant facts of life, we now know for sure that no matter how much we want it to stop, we will have to prepare for a relatively long haul. So what will help?
According to David Rock of NeuroLeadership Institute, we need to focus on what we can control instead of what we cannot. If we keep on checking the news and social media for that miracle, we will only disappoint us. As a result, we will make our life and others around us more miserable than it needs to be.
Being a resident in the first city in the US affected by Covid-19, my family and friends have adopted some new ways to keep our morale high during this time. I categorized them into three big buckets.
- Care – Self-care practice for well-being
- Connect – Connect with others
- Create – Finding new ways of doing things, deep, quality thinking
Care or personal well-being could include physical exercise, spiritual practices, and the like. My regular exercise includes Zumba fitness classes in our local gym; I started taking advantage of some of these youtube videos to keep me going while I am home. I was surprised to find out how much quality movement I am having from just 30-min of Latino dance moves. On the emotional side, a gratitude practice is an excellent antidote to anxiety. It could be making a list of simple things we take for granted. For the starters, here is one sample: I am healthy; I have a family. My family is healthy; I have food. I have the money to buy food; I have family and friends who care for me.
“I think just over the last few years there’s been more of a trend to focus on gratitude,” says psychologist Laurie Santos, who teaches a course on the science of well-being and happiness at Yale. [source: If You Feel Thankful, Write It Down. It’s Good For Your Health ].
This lockdown can be a forcing function to practice quality time with self, practice some self-compassion.
Staying at home or social distancing order has created a significant challenge mostly for those who are outgoing and enjoy social gatherings. But after a few weeks, even the introverts are feeling the pain. We aren’t able to socialize the way we know it but thanks to technological advancements; we have apps like Zoom, Skype, Facebook Messengers to do video chats. At work, many of us do those video meetings, but now in our personal spaces, these tools are coming very handy. Last week my family from four different countries did a BYOD Zoom party. It was quite tricky to find a suitable time across five different time zones, but it was all worth it. Habit change is hard but not impossible. It requires some intentionality. Some playfulness and openness to try different things could go a long way.
Another silver lining is, we now have an opportunity to build a more profound, quality relationship with those living with us under the same roof. One friend said they started playing board games as a family. For some, this time may be a rare lifetime opportunity to rekindle the connections with their partners, children, and parents. Now that we are not commuting, traveling, or attending the conferences, why not be creative about our closest relationships that we often take for granted.
Helping others is another way to create meaningful connections and lessen our anxieties. Check on your friends and families, bring groceries to your elderly neighbors, donate money to the organizations that are at the forefront – everything counts.
Creativity may not be in your mind right now as you are to manage work, parenting, homeschooling, and household chores. Let’s take this opportunity to shift our mindset of the classic definition of work time and the separation of work and life. Neuroscience already found that our brains can’t stay as creative/productive for long hours. 90-mins bursts of productivity followed by short beaks are most natural for our brains to function optimally. Now that we no longer have the luxury to separate work from home life let us implement such rhythm. It might teach us to make better use of our time altogether.
In case your business and workload slowed down, travel plans got canceled, now could be an excellent time to read a book, take an online course and make some progress on a project that requires some undivided attention and time.
I have seen numerous creative, thoughtful, and often humorous memes, images, and articles during these past few weeks. I found this “Daily Quarantine Questions” from leadership coach Andrea Fleischfresser. She generously let me share this here.
This COVID-19 pandemic is not the first time humans faced such a challenge. In our personal and family lives, many of us have stories of despair times and resilience that helped us bounce back. Ask the parents, grandparents, or those who have seen it all, let them share a pearl of wisdom or two.
“This too shall pass”. How we will come out on the other side is a choice – no matter how hard it may feel right now.
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