• Career satisfaction,  Happiness,  Uncategorized

    Don’t Focus on the Problem – Focus on your Ultimate Vision

    Last year, an engineer, let me call him Tom, came to me. He looked very tired and unhappy. “Sharmin, I am working long days, late nights, still my manager wants me to do more, have more impact, show more leadership…where is the time…why can’t he see my contribution already! With changes going around all the time it is so hard to get anything done on time. I even wanted to change this job, but in this economy it is so hard to get an interview even!” – Tom gave me a quite a vivid picture of his life. I felt compassionate for him. Not too long ago I experienced this…

  • Happiness

    What life stage are you in – Survival, Success or Significance?

    [Anyone is capable of  making the transition to the next level – it is not tied to a dollar amount or an age limit.] Found this recently: Everyone lives at one of three levels in life: Survival, Success and Significance.  Survival– You are living from week to week, looking forward to the weekends, vacations and finally the retirement. In my words this is a life in “Autopilot mode“. Success – Eating out, Driving a nice car, looking good, feeling good, having goods. At this level when people grow further (in maturity) they start thinking – If I am so successful why I don’t feel satisfied! Significance– You know your life matters. You…

  • Happiness,  Success Strategy

    How are you setting your goals, Inside-out or Outside-in?

    Last week I was describing the concept of “Living from inside-out” to my class participants in a high tech company. The example I gave – If you target to become a VP of a company that is an “outside-in” way of seeing your goal. The “inside-out” approach could be – I want to innovate, drive a product (what kind?) that I care (fill in in here with why you care…) and I am willing to take risks, sacrifice my comfort to make it a success (define it using your values). Basically you are defining your intention qualitatively; you are not attached to a certain form of it. There is a…

  • Happiness,  Success Strategy

    Happiness theory and my Exercise routine

    The other day at the end of my class, people got quite hyped up to make time to do something for themselves. Few of them made a commitment to start going to the gym. Sounded like a great idea! But experience tells me that, by the  next class more than half will report that they didn’t have time or the motivation. So what would help to be more successful? I found this answer for myself and surprisingly enough that aligns with happiness theory! Find an activity(exercise or something else) that You enjoy; the reward is instantaneous as well as comes with a long term positive impact. Is a small stretch for you…

  • Happiness,  Time Management

    Work-life balance in my own backyard

    Among so many articles about work life balance, this one in HBR, the Imperfect balance between work and life caught my attention today. The main idea is 1. Pick few things that really need your focus 2. Delegate or let go others, and 3. Most importantly, embrace imperfection. The author found that one major hurdle for achieving work life balance is artificial images of perfection. She also points to the fact that, sometimes what is assumed to constitute perfection can be counter-productive. For example, keeping babies always in a sterile environment would make them less adaptable to the real world or delaying a product release would risk losing the market…

  • Career satisfaction,  Happiness

    Career Change – 4 Things Helped Me Make the Move

    Last week I saw two relevant posts on this topic, one in the Forbes magazine and the other in the TEDx talk. I have been wondering where these article/talks were a few years back when I was in this dilemma! I am sure there were many, only that those somehow didn’t come into my radar. I had to do it the harder way. What helped me to make the decision were these few basic points. 1. When I was convinced, I deserve to have more fulfillment It took me a while to realize, I am not here to “do” a lot of things, and I am not here to be a “superwoman” either.…

  • Happiness,  Personal Brand

    Being an Introvert is not so Bad After All!

    Have you ever heard an extrovert having a development plan to become quieter or making an effort to have lone time for them? Probably not too often. But if you are an introvert there are tons of feedback for you to come out of your desk, mingle with people, overcome the fears of public speaking, you name it! Now here is a good news for you (and me). I am reading this article in TIME magazine, The Upside of being an Introvert (and why the extroverts are being overrated); It says, “It takes both introvert and extrovert to make history.  Introverts have less number of friends but those relationships tend to…

  • Career satisfaction,  Happiness,  Success Strategy

    How I Decided On Career Change

    These days whenever I talk to my friends and ex-coworkers, one question comes very often: “How did you decide that you wanted to be a coach?”  Someone even asked, “So how did it happen, one fine morning, you just decided on this?” Some commented, “I wish I knew what my passion is”. My short answer is, it took me a few years of dissatisfaction and trying out different activities, and finally one year of rigorous thinking to find out my passion and the next endeavor. There was a time I truly enjoyed my software work; I was very proud of my contribution, which in turn satisfied my soul. At the…