• Personal Brand,  Success Strategy

    Nervous About Networking? Find Your Own Sweet Spot

    During my corporate career I once attended a class on “how to show up confident”. It had quite a few tips I don’t remember those exactly. But today I remembered about it when I noticed that I was feeling very confident and at ease during a networking event. In particular I was standing exactly the way it was taught in that class, standing with the feet in a V-shape and hands on the sides! In that confidence class when the instructor taught us about the standing poses, it didn’t make too much sense. It felt awkward, not only that, my analytic mind had lots of why questions. But today I…

  • Career satisfaction,  Happiness,  Success Strategy

    Aspirations – Find Your Own Unique One

    Few years back we went to Zion national park in Utah. We hiked on a mountain in the scorching 80 degree heat. The destination was the “upper pool” a small body of water with a sandy beach. As we reached there, we savored the moment of achievement by cheering and taking pictures. But my 6-year old and her friend didn’t seem to care – they got something more exciting – the wet sand! To a 6-year old the wet sand and the possibility of sand castles seemed much more fascinating than my measure of achievement. We often forget that – instead of finding our own unique aspirations – we limit ourselves…

  • Success Strategy

    Ego and Conflicts

    Ego awareness can be a great aid during conflicts. Professional mediator Diane Hamilton talks at Google. Few things I am taking away. Our primitive brain sees conflict as a threat. It is a useful practice to stop the thinking brain (usually negative thoughts), spend some time noticing the body sensation and only after that analyze the thoughts and come to a middle ground. Ego can be in different levels. Self, self and other, ethno centric, world centric and then cosmic centric. The wider it is the wiser it becomes! It is natural to be ego centric in the most threatening conflict situation. With practice on self awareness we can do…

  • Career satisfaction,  Happiness,  Success Strategy

    Looking Back: Five Years of My New Career and Life

    Today is the 5th anniversary of my post Microsoft life :). Hard to believe how time flies! It was not just a new career I wanted to pursue; I also wanted to be part of the neighborhood I lived in. Being someone coming from totally different culture and moving towards an even more unknown career I had to go through a steep learning curve many take for granted.  Today I decided to take a pause and celebrate by reflecting on the past five years of my life. Other than completing the coach training to obtain a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and Associated Certified Coach(ACC), here is a snapshot of what…

  • Success Strategy,  Time Management

    The Pen is Luxurious Than the Keyboard

    This year I have made a commitment – I will be more accountable to myself. I found a paper notebook is helping me in this regard. Every day/week I am jotting down what I want to focus on, what my intention is and how I am doing.  A paper and pen is definitely not the state of the art personal productivity tool but surprisingly enough it is helping me to be more mindful about my time. I now have more clarity about where I am with respect to my bigger goals (also written/drawn on a paper).  I wonder, what is the point on going back to a non-tech solution when I…

  • Happiness,  Success Strategy

    Optimize Yourself With a Mind-Body Connection

    On the first day of my coach training class the instructor gave us a meditation exercise. The purpose was to be ready and present for the session. As someone coming from the high paced, left brained,  hardcore technology field I was not able to appreciate it much. Noticing my breathing and the body parts seemed totally nonintellectual!  To make things even worse, she asked us to imagine forming a circle with our ancestors and dance with them – I totally checked out and waited impatiently till she came back to reality. 4 years after, as a coach and a workshop facilitator now I have learned to appreciate the value of mind-body…

  • Success Strategy

    Afraid of Feedback? Find How It Serves You Best

    If you are a corporate employee, notice the feeling you are having when you read the word “Feedback”. “I have some feedback for you” often creates the same or worse visceral reaction as “we have a problem”! A quick web search brought this definition of feedback: Comments in the form of opinions and reactions to something, intended to provide useful information for future decisions and development. Based on my experience, the more common connotation of feedback is: It is unpleasant, negative and often brings a defensive behavior. Now that I am not part of the corporate system and I don’t have the luxury of getting the unsolicited feedback regularly, I thought I wouldn’t…

  • Career satisfaction,  Happiness,  Success Strategy

    There Is More Than One Reality – Choose That Serves

    “Reality is reality, there is no point to sugar coat it “– a friend of mine uttered with a great sigh! I agree and there is more. It reminded me of the story of a young woman, Irene, who didn’t try to sugar coat a gloom “reality”. Instead she chose to focus on another reality –It turned her around from being stuck to being successful. When Irene reached out to me during February this year, she had been feeling stuck. She was not able to make any progress in her PhD thesis for a very long time, every time she tried to force her, it backfired. Her thoughts/ideas got crippled by…

  • EQ,  Happiness,  Leadership,  Success Strategy

    Caterpillars to Butterflies : Human Maturity Stages

    [Key point: If you are doing everything right, working hard and still not getting the fulfillment, don’t just label it as the mid-life crisis. You may be ready to transition to the next maturity stage. It’s your choice to pay heed to your heart’s calling or to stay comfortable and forgo any further exploration of this wonderful life you have.] When I ask “what do YOU want” people sometimes get confused.  Common responses are: “Wouldn’t that be selfish”? “I always think about others, I put others needs ahead of me, am I not supposed to do that way”? I realized some awareness around Kegan’s Human Maturity Stages might shed some light…

  • Career satisfaction,  Personal Brand,  Success Strategy

    Why Do You Do It? 3 Steps to Clarify Your Commitments

    Common wisdom goes as, we do paid work for money and volunteer work to fulfill other needs. Whatever we do, paid or volunteer work requires some commitment from our part. Sometimes we get so much fun that it doesn’t feel that way, but there are times we need to renew our vows – why am I doing it again?  It is more productive and rewarding when we have some clarity for it.  Here are three ways to get there. 1.     What does it give me  – Alignment with my longer term goal How this particular involvement aligns with your bigger purpose? For example, your three year goal is to become an event…