• Happiness,  Success Strategy

    Optimize Yourself With a Mind-Body Connection

    On the first day of my coach training class the instructor gave us a meditation exercise. The purpose was to be ready and present for the session. As someone coming from the high paced, left brained,  hardcore technology field I was not able to appreciate it much. Noticing my breathing and the body parts seemed totally nonintellectual!  To make things even worse, she asked us to imagine forming a circle with our ancestors and dance with them – I totally checked out and waited impatiently till she came back to reality. 4 years after, as a coach and a workshop facilitator now I have learned to appreciate the value of mind-body…

  • Success Strategy

    Afraid of Feedback? Find How It Serves You Best

    If you are a corporate employee, notice the feeling you are having when you read the word “Feedback”. “I have some feedback for you” often creates the same or worse visceral reaction as “we have a problem”! A quick web search brought this definition of feedback: Comments in the form of opinions and reactions to something, intended to provide useful information for future decisions and development. Based on my experience, the more common connotation of feedback is: It is unpleasant, negative and often brings a defensive behavior. Now that I am not part of the corporate system and I don’t have the luxury of getting the unsolicited feedback regularly, I thought I wouldn’t…

  • Career satisfaction,  Happiness,  Success Strategy

    There Is More Than One Reality – Choose That Serves

    “Reality is reality, there is no point to sugar coat it “– a friend of mine uttered with a great sigh! I agree and there is more. It reminded me of the story of a young woman, Irene, who didn’t try to sugar coat a gloom “reality”. Instead she chose to focus on another reality –It turned her around from being stuck to being successful. When Irene reached out to me during February this year, she had been feeling stuck. She was not able to make any progress in her PhD thesis for a very long time, every time she tried to force her, it backfired. Her thoughts/ideas got crippled by…

  • EQ,  Happiness,  Leadership,  Success Strategy

    Caterpillars to Butterflies : Human Maturity Stages

    [Key point: If you are doing everything right, working hard and still not getting the fulfillment, don’t just label it as the mid-life crisis. You may be ready to transition to the next maturity stage. It’s your choice to pay heed to your heart’s calling or to stay comfortable and forgo any further exploration of this wonderful life you have.] When I ask “what do YOU want” people sometimes get confused.  Common responses are: “Wouldn’t that be selfish”? “I always think about others, I put others needs ahead of me, am I not supposed to do that way”? I realized some awareness around Kegan’s Human Maturity Stages might shed some light…

  • Career satisfaction,  Personal Brand,  Success Strategy

    Why Do You Do It? 3 Steps to Clarify Your Commitments

    Common wisdom goes as, we do paid work for money and volunteer work to fulfill other needs. Whatever we do, paid or volunteer work requires some commitment from our part. Sometimes we get so much fun that it doesn’t feel that way, but there are times we need to renew our vows – why am I doing it again?  It is more productive and rewarding when we have some clarity for it.  Here are three ways to get there. 1.     What does it give me  – Alignment with my longer term goal How this particular involvement aligns with your bigger purpose? For example, your three year goal is to become an event…

  • Leadership,  Success Strategy,  Uncategorized

    Procrastination – How to Manage this Common Vice

    [Summary: Don’t get too hard on yourself- find the root cause and handle it in a smarter way.] If you are reading this you might be like many of us who suffer from procrastination. But don’t stop there – this is just the tip of the iceberg, the symptom of something bigger underneath. Pay attention and address the root cause. For my case I procrastinate for different reasons. For example, when the task: Needs deep attention (e.g. creative thinking) Is hard – something I am not naturally good at (e.g. accounting). Is boring (organizing, paper work, chores) My strategy depends on the reason for the procrastination. For the high energy…

  • Success Strategy

    Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail and How to Make it Work

    Found this scary stat, almost half of the American’s make a New Year’s resolution but only 8% are successful in achieving it! Also every year, the most popular resolutions are: staying fit, work-life balance and personal enrichment. All these are great resolutions to improve one’s quality of life. So where is the problem? Why the success rate is so low and what can you do to beat that? This fall, one of the participants in my class set his goal as: to reduce his weight by going to the gym every day. The key to set achievable goals is to align it with one’s true essence. In order to help him do that…

  • Success Strategy,  Time Management

    Ready or not the New Year is coming – Will your resolution be a small talk again?

    In January the common topic of the office kitchen conversation is the New Year’s resolution. Until recently I never actually did much of a planning for the year, so  when asked I made up something. My standard answer was “be more organized”, which hardly happened!  I was not lying though, I really felt I needed to have better control on my life, but honestly I didn’t know how to do it.  So I forgot about it even before I finished that cup of coffee I brought from the kitchen. After becoming an entrepreneur the idea of resolution made more sense to me. Unless I have a vision for myself I don’t know…

  • Success Strategy,  Time Management,  Uncategorized

    The Myth of Multitasking

    Too many times I hear that you can’t survive without multitasking. Checking emails during a meeting, responding to a door knock while trying focus on your work seem to be a common scenario at the workplace. While many times it pays off to be able to take care of multiple things at once, it would be useful to take a look at our brain to see when it is NOT the best strategy. Any kind of task that needs a little amount of analyzing or decision making is processed in the Pre-frontal cortex (PFC) of the brain. The PFC is very small and very much energy hungry part that sits…

  • Happiness,  Success Strategy

    How are you setting your goals, Inside-out or Outside-in?

    Last week I was describing the concept of “Living from inside-out” to my class participants in a high tech company. The example I gave – If you target to become a VP of a company that is an “outside-in” way of seeing your goal. The “inside-out” approach could be – I want to innovate, drive a product (what kind?) that I care (fill in in here with why you care…) and I am willing to take risks, sacrifice my comfort to make it a success (define it using your values). Basically you are defining your intention qualitatively; you are not attached to a certain form of it. There is a…