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    TED finds the lost ring

    I have been busy for this week’s webinar. The topic is from the Power of TED; Empowerment is all I have in my mind. I even empowerd myself to be okay with taking a break from my weekly posts. But then I found this gift, call it the law of attraction or anything else! Here it is:  When I was walking my daughter to school, I noticed she was holding the light-up ring in her hand (she bought it with her allowance money last week). I knew she misplaced it last night and had asked me about it. I got curious and asked her how she found it. She smiled wisely. “You know…

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    Katherine’s time management dilemma and the Power of TED

    This morning on my way to walk I saw my neighbor Katherine in her signature pink sweat shirt. Both of us were glad to have a company for the walk. The weather was exceptionally nice for a Seattle morning; temperature was on the upper 40’s and the sky was clear with the golden rays of sun sparkling on the 84th avenue, my usual walking route. After a small talk I asked Katherine how she was doing in making time for the new part time job she started recently.  “I am not there yet, I need to start making some boundaries for all my responsibilities, my work, my children, my parents…” she…

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    Drive – The Surprising truth about what Motivates us

    Carrot and stick – reward and punishment- is an age old technique for getting things done by others. The corporate world has adopted this mantra almost as the panacea for employee motivation. But Daniel Pink tells us a different story.  He says, carrot and stick works well only when the task is algorithmic (well defined steps), it loses its effectiveness for tasks that requires even little bit of thinking and creativity. In today’s world most high-tech jobs have lots of ambiguity and demand lots of creativity in order to perform them well. According to Pink, the employers need to start thinking different ways for motivating these knowledge workers. When an…

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    The Silly Brain that makes hasty decisions

    Monday morning @8:35AM: My daughter Farheen is supposed to be at her breakfast table 5 minutes ago. She comes downstairs with a long face, “Mommy, my bracelet is missing”. My tension rises, if she doesn’t head out in 10 minutes she will be late for school. My voice is about to go up…, just in time another thought stops me – if I do this now she may be in school on time but I will feel miserable the entire day.  I take a deep breath and assure her that I will see about it if she eats first. As she starts the reluctant bites I tell her a little story that goes like…

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    Already off track for your New Year’s Resolution? Find out how to do better

    Found this statistics – almost all Americans make a new year’s resolution. The bad news is that half of them break their new year’s resolution by January 2 and more than 90% of those resolutions are forgotten by April 1. So if you are having hard time keeping your resolution you are in the majority group. If you want it otherwise here is some food for thought. Take a look at the bigger purpose you had for your New Year’s resolution or goal. Purpose is the soul of goals and goals are the means by which you express your purpose in the world. If your goal is to go to…

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    Why does it bother Me?

    Few years ago I volunteered as a treasurer in an organization. My motivation was to build some skill in accounting work and to get engaged with the leadership team. It was going well for the most part. The reason I say “most part” because from time to time one particular member was giving me unsolicited advice on how to do my job. At first I tried to ignore her, but eventually, it pushed me over the edge.  I needed to do something about it! Being relatively new to the team I decided to talk to someone I trusted. Fortunately this trusted member was a coach. She agreed with me that the…

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    There is always more than one solution!

    We are having a record amount of snow fall here in Seattle. My little girl is having the fun of her lifetime, snowball fight, making snowman, sledding, you name it! Though I was little lazy initially, now I am enjoying it too. Even shoveling seems to be fun. This afternoon when I was trying to clean up the driveway my daughter wanted to do it too. With having only one shovel, taking turns seemed to be the only choice we had. But I was getting little nervous as it would be hard to finish the work before evening. At first I thought I will just be the parent and ask…

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    Empowering Language – Lighten up your life with this simple technique

      Language is power.  When we speak, we exercise the power of language to transform reality. —Julia Penelope What we say and how we say it impacts our own experience and the experience we have of other people in our life.  Our communication has an impact not only on a cognizant, mental level, but also at many subtle levels.  Words convey underlying messages to our subconscious mind, evoking physical, emotional, mental and spiritual meaning for others and for us. Some words and phrases are less empowering (or effective) than others.  For example, say the following phrase to yourself: "I have to stop at the bank on my way home".  Pay…

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    Live a Creative Life

    [I have recently read this book, The Power of TED* The Empowerment Dynamic. I am writing a synopsis to share the wonderful concepts with my readers. This is the second and last part of my write up. This adresses the "Creator Orientation and The Empowerment Dynamic (TED)". Part 1-Victim Orientation and Dreaded Drama Triangle(DDT) can be found here. ] My friend once wrote in her facebook status “I know what I don’t want but I don’t know what I DO want”.  She spoke for many.  Most of the times we know what we don’t want, what we want to avoid and what problems are causing us troubles. How about having shift from…

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    The Power of TED* (Part1)- Victim Orientation and Dreaded Drama Triangle

    [I have recently read this book, The Power of TED* The Empowerment Dynamic. I am writing a synopsis to share the wonderful concepts with my readers.-Sharmin]   How many times we feel sad, upset or mad and act very negatively just “because someone else did it”? We feel we are victim of someone else’s fault; there is not much we can do but to react (negative way) unless another person solves the problem for us. This is called victimhood. Victimhood is a very common orientation among mankind; It is everywhere… most of the news reports are stories of Victims and Persecutors and, sometimes, Rescuers. The feeling that victim has is…