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    Emotional Intelligence,  EQ,  Feedback,  Leadership

    Emotional Intelligence for Technical Leaders: Lessons from Sheldon Cooper in The Big Bang Theory

    Technical leaders today face a unique challenge: the more complex the problems become, the more critical people skills are. While technical expertise can get you promoted, what sustains success at higher levels is your ability to influence, collaborate, and build trust across functions. And no pop-culture character illustrates the tension between high intelligence and low emotional awareness more clearly than Sheldon Cooper, the gifted physicist from the acclaimed American TV show The Big Bang Theory. Though extreme, Sheldon represents a familiar archetype—brilliant, analytical, and highly principled, yet often puzzled by human emotions. Many technical leaders I coach share a dynamic: strong IQ but underutilized EQ. And just as with Sheldon,…

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    Coaching,  Feedback,  Leadership

    Behavioral Feedback is Like a Bug Report: A Software Engineering Approach to Leadership Development

    Summary: As a former software engineer turned executive coach, I often see parallels between debugging software and improving human behavior. Engineers follow a disciplined process to identify, investigate, and fix defects in code. Yet, when it comes to behavioral change, we often skip that rigor. In this post, I share how leaders can approach behavioral feedback with the same thoughtful curiosity used in engineering—starting with awareness, followed by investigation, and then meaningful change. The Problem with Behavioral Feedback in Leadership “Speak up more.”“Be assertive, but don’t hurt relationships.”“Don’t undermine others.” You may have heard one or more of these phrases—perhaps in a performance review or a quick conversation after a…