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Life Lessons From Adopting A Pet

A few months after the pandemic started, we decided to get a kitten. Even though my daughter had been asking about it for a while, I was not looking forward ...
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How To Think Of Your Career Growth, Agile or Waterfall?

Anyone familiar with software development knows agile is the way to go when developing new software or a product. But when it comes to a career, what does it mean? ...
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Caterpillars to Butterflies : Human Maturity Stages

When I ask “What do YOU want” people sometimes get confused. Common responses are: "Wouldn't that be selfish"? "I always think about others, I want others to be happy; am ...
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Organization Politics – How We See It Can Change the Meaning

“I like doing my job, but I hate politics. Almost everyone says that they hate politics. If no one likes it, then who creates it in the first place”? My ...
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What Can We Learn From Will Smith’s Oscar Debacle

Since Sunday, my newsfeed has been flooding with the news and commentary about Will Smith slapping Chris Rock on stage when he made a rather insensitive joke about Will's wife, ...
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You Were Asked To Be More Strategic, Now What?

Engineering and STEM Leaders often receive this feedback, "you need to be more strategic," when they are passed up for a promotion. Yet, they have minimal idea of what that ...
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Are You Sabotaged By Your Inner Hyper-Achiever?

A high-tech leader, let’s call him Jason, said, “I can’t relax; I always have to do something useful. Nobody makes me do so; it’s me. This is how I am” ...
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“Never Looked Back” – Is a Myth

Recently I was sharing the story of my career change and someone commented, “...and you never looked back”! I was caught by surprise. The fact is, I did look back, ...
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Feeling – A Vital Missing Part from the Thinker’s Head

“What do you feel now?” I ask my client Tom in the middle of our session. “I think it is, …”, he replies. “What do you feel”, I ask persistently ...
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Do You Dread Giving Feedback? There Is A Better Way.

Giving feedback is a regular part of a manager's job responsibility, but most of us are uncomfortable with it. David Rock and his colleagues from the NeuroLeadership Institute wrote in ...
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Sharmin Banu

Why Targeting A Job Title As A Goal Doesn’t Work – Sharmin’s Interview With Ascend Global Media

Q: Why is it important to set an authentic goal? When we are too focused on outside-in recognition like a job title, money, etc., we narrowly define our goal. It ...
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Craft New year Goals

Webinar this Week: Craft Sustainable Goals For The New Year

The beginning of the year motivates us to start things right. Ironically it often creates social pressure to declare a popular resolution rather than thoughtfully develop a meaningful and sustainable ...
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Feeling Anxious Setting Goals for The Year? Try These 3 Techniques

A typical "water cooler" conversation around this time of the year is the New Year's resolution. Of course, my standard answer used to be "be more organized," which hardly happened! ...
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This Holiday, Build Resilience Through Family Stories and Connections

It's the season. Despite the threat of Omicron and everything else,  holidays are in the air. Holidays are a reminder to connect with what is important that we often forget ...
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Get New Year’s Planning Out of the Way and Enjoy The Holidays More

Holiday's are in the air. You must be looking forward to all the festivities, traveling, seeing the family, or simply winding down. Me too. I am heading for a two ...
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A Workshop Emerged from the Themes of Coaching Tech Clients

After 12 years of coaching software engineers to VPs in the tech industry, I found this common theme: feeling fulfilled about our work and contribution is challenging. Managing a thriving relationship ...
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Entrepreneurial Spirit

Entrepreneurial Spirit : Build The Product YOU

"All humans are entrepreneurs not because they should start companies but because the will to create is encoded in human DNA." - Reid Hoffman, co-founder of LinkedIn. If you are ...
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You were given Feedback to Improve your Executive Presence – What do you do now?

The other day a senior leader contacted me to hire as his coach. His LinkedIn Profile was immaculate - multiple graduate degrees from top-notch schools, a strong track record of ...
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Career Satisfaction: What Is In Your Way?

“Not enough time,” “Not enough support from others,” “Lack of ideas” topped the list for my survey question: “What is in your way of a more satisfying career?”  It would ...
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Optimize Yourself With a Mind-Body Connection

It was the summer of 2009 when I started my coach training class; the instructor started the session with a guided meditation. The purpose was to be ready and present for ...
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Want to Take Your Career to the Next Level? Manage Your Attention Wisely

“I don’t have the time to pause and think; my days are filled with back-to-back meetings. When someone asks me a question, I tell them what I know and go ...
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Is “Authenticity” Backfiring On You? Here Is Why

Theresa, a senior developer in a tech firm, said that their management encouraged them to be authentic. It prompted her to be passionately sharing some of her opinions. There was ...
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Feeling Stuck and Unmotivated? Invest in Your Emotional Vitality First

 Feeling stuck and unmotivated in your job? Not getting enough recognition or the upward mobility you deserve? Getting feedback that you are not doing enough? A software engineer in the ...
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Applying Software Engineering Concepts in Coaching

Applying Software Engineering Concepts in Professional Growth

Last week, I talked to a client who has a Ph.D. in Computer Science and works on a cutting-edge research project for one of the topmost tech companies. He has ...
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A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution

Conflict is a common issue my clients face in their workplace. I found this talk, A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution by Diane Musho Hamilton, insightful to manage such situations.  ...
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Brainstorming? Focus On 10% Right

As engineers and tech professionals, we are rewarded for our analytical skills in finding code defects and design issues early on. Often we keep on applying this same trait with ...
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Want To Be Productive? Start With Doing Nothing (Guest post)

"I am busy all day, trying to complete my to-do list before calling it a day. Yet, some things always remain undone, and, worse still, new things pop up. I ...
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Reactivity To Thoughtfulness – A Corporate Leader’s Journey

"He doesn’t work well with others.” “He has issues dealing with bad news.” “He is a star performer, but he is lacking executive presence.”  These are some of the typical ...
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“Why Does It Bother Me?” Why We React So Much By Other’s Opinions

It was the Spring of 2011, I was volunteering as a treasurer for a non-profit organization. My motivation was to hone my accounting skills while expanding my network. It was going ...
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What Gets in the Way of Guilt Free Self-Care?

“Finish your homework before you play “ - Our parents’ well-meaning advice worked well in our early days, but as adults, it is backfiring. These days, most of our work ...
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The Myth of Multitasking

Too many times, I hear that you can’t survive without multitasking. Checking emails during a meeting, responding to a door knock while trying to focus on your work seems to ...
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Q&A w/ Sharmin

The Story Behind “Q&A With Sharmin” Series

I was answering the audience questions during a recent speaking engagement when the host said, "pay attention, Sharmin is coaching.” Even though I was pleasantly surprised that he saw it ...
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Struggling with Time Management? Look into the Root Causes

Time management is one of the topmost challenges for almost every functional human being. When my clients come with this question, I tell them that time is a fixed resource ...
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Conversations To Foster Greater Understanding

Recently this post by organizational psychologists at Wharton, Adam Grant, went viral on LinkedIn. He said: The clearest sign of intellectual chemistry isn't agreeing with someone. It's enjoying your disagreements with ...
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Managing up/Self-promotion : What To Do About It

In my recent survey, an amazing 79% of people said that Managing-up/Self-promotion is the most challenging aspect of their work. I didn't expect it at all! I then started thinking about it ...
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Know your Strengths, Capitalize on Them

Too often, we send employees to training to fix the areas of weaknesses. We expect people to be well-rounded to be successful. The fact is, excellent performers, are rarely “well rounded”; ...
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Use Emotions As Your Ally

Do anxiety, outrage, frustration, or sadness often grip you? Do they get in the way in high stake situations? Do you wonder why you are not getting what you want? ...
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Courage From Within – Conviction And Trust Can Help

Growing up, I didn’t think I was very courageous. One day I saw this quote saying: Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting despite -- because something ...
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Time Is Fixed But Energy Is Not

“There’s not enough time.” “Time is running out.” “I wish I had more time.” These are some complaints we hear frequently. High-performing, high-achieving professionals often ask for time-management strategies. After ...
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What A Car Can Teach Us About A Successful Career

I was talking to Andrea, a leader in a big corporate here in the Seattle area. Brilliant and hardworking she was; her resume spoke for itself. As a senior director ...
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