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My Career Shift from Coding to Coaching: A Quest for Joy and Purpose
How often does a dream come true? For me, it did when both my husband and I received job offers from Microsoft – The Mecca for tech professionals at that time. On November 28, 2000, we moved to Seattle from Austin, Texas. It felt like I had finally boarded the right train—life on track, career on point—or so I thought. But less than a decade later, everything shifted. This week marks 16 years since I walked away from my role as a software engineering manager at Microsoft to pursue something completely unknown—the “people stuff”—coaching, connection, and deeper impact. This milestone made me pause and reflect: How did I find the…
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Unlocking Leadership Through Inner Alignment: Rebecca’s Coaching Journey
Rebecca, a 45-year-old senior leader at a manufacturing company, recently received some familiar-sounding feedback from her boss: “You need to delegate more and think more strategically.” It’s the kind of advice that sounds reasonable—but when your team is stretched thin, attrition is rising, and leadership pressure keeps piling on, it doesn’t feel empowering. It feels like just one more demand. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. As a leadership coach, I hear this story often. And here’s what I’ve learned: feedback like this is just the tip of the iceberg. My work doesn’t begin with delegation strategies—it begins with understanding what’s beneath the surface. What’s happening in a leader’s…
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Career satisfaction, Communication, Emotional Intelligence, EQ, Executive Presence, Leadership, Self-leadership, Success Strategy
Confidence Is Not the Absence of Doubt
Carol, a senior leader in healthcare, recently transitioned from HR to strategy. She felt out of her depth. In leadership meetings, she hesitated to share her opinions, lacking the confidence she once had after 30 years in HR. Similarly, Steve, a veteran financial executive, had just stepped into a new role. Playing it safe, he stayed agreeable and held back. But over time, his frustration grew as he struggled to gain support for his initiatives. It’s true that decades of experience can bolster confidence, but we don’t always have the luxury of time. The good news? Confidence isn’t solely built on tenure. It’s about finding the conviction to move forward…
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The Startup HR Leader’s Challenge: Turning Paradox into Progress
HR leaders in startups often find themselves caught between compliance and chaos, strategy and firefighting. As veteran HR leader Gretchen Meyer puts it: “Balancing the need for sustainable talent systems with the fast-paced changes of scaling a startup is an ongoing challenge. While HR gets leadership’s attention, true investment often takes multiple budget cycles.” Startup HR Leaders’ Top Challenges I recently polled on LinkedIn on this topic and received this result. 1. Everything is Urgent—No time to assess (44%) Startups operate in survival mode, leaving HR constantly firefighting compliance issues and handling reactive hiring needs. This lack of planning leads to employee dissatisfaction and retention problems. 2. Resistance to Structure,…
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Scale Your Impact: A Simple Coaching Model To Develop Your Team
Randy, a Vice President at a Fortune 200 company, has been a superstar performer since his early career days. However, as his responsibilities have grown, he is overwhelmed by how much his team depends on him. His days are packed with back-to-back meetings with clients and stakeholders, as well as answering emails and Slack messages in between, where he constantly answers questions and provides direction for his team. He works late into the night and even on weekends to keep up. While his leadership recognizes his contribution, they also see that his approach becomes a bottleneck. Yet, Randy struggles with how to change without compromising critical client needs. Solution: Scaling…
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What Driving Teaches Us About Navigating Our Careers
I was chatting with Andrea, a senior director at a major corporation in Seattle. Brilliant and hardworking, her resume spoke volumes about her accomplishments. Yet, in this new role, she was hitting unexpected roadblocks. The feedback she received was clear: people didn’t understand the value she was bringing to the organization, and her contributions were flying under the radar. Andrea believed the solution was simple—if only she could be more vocal in meetings and better at promoting her achievements. But deep down, she wasn’t confident in her contributions either. Most of her time was spent stabilizing her team, handling layoffs, and navigating an organization with shifting priorities and limited resources.…
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Communication, Emotional Intelligence, EQ, Executive Presence, Leadership, Neuroscience, Self-leadership
Demystifying Executive Presence
A senior engineering leader reached out to me for coaching. His credentials were impeccable—multiple graduate degrees from prestigious universities and an impressive professional track record. Yet, he was told to improve his Executive Presence (EP). His question? “What does that even mean?“ Through our conversation, we identified his challenge: he struggled to deliver his points with clarity and conciseness during senior leadership meetings. This reminded me of another client—let’s call him Joe, a senior product manager. Joe was in the middle of a presentation when his VP interrupted, asking for the bottom line. Frustrated, Joe thought, Why won’t he let me finish my presentation? Later, when he shared this with…
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Is Pushing Back Hard for You? 3 Ways to Get Better
Susan (not her real name), a director at a manufacturing company, found herself navigating a common yet delicate workplace challenge. She pushed back on a request from a partner team; in her email, she explained that resource shortages and prioritization concerns prevented her team from accommodating it. To her surprise, her manager later provided feedback that her response came across as rude. In corporate environments, the ability to push back is often regarded as a hallmark of strong leadership. Done thoughtfully, it reflects assertiveness, strategic thinking, and professionalism. Yet for many—particularly women, minorities, and those from cultures that emphasize deference—pushing back tactfully can feel like walking a tightrope. Having faced…
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Falling Behind on New Year’s Goals? Here’s How to Bounce Back
Did you know that most New Year’s resolutions don’t make it past spring? According to a Forbes Health/OnePoll survey, the average resolution lasts just 3.74 months, with 65% of people abandoning their goals within four months. To make matters worse, unofficial holidays like “Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day” (January 17) and “Quitter’s Day” (the second Friday in January) highlight how quickly motivation can fade. If you’ve already started wavering on your resolutions, don’t worry—you’re not alone. More importantly, you’re not doomed to fail. Understanding the root causes behind these setbacks allows you to adjust your approach and set yourself up for success. Here are the three key reasons resolutions often…
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My Holiday Knitting Project and The Threads of Life
Crochet and knitting have become my cherished hobbies, a comforting ritual during the holiday season. Growing up, I often watched my mom knit cozy sweaters for us and other family members. Her steady hands and creative spirit inspired me, and now I find joy in carrying on that tradition. This year, I picked on a special project: knitting a scarf for my college-going daughter, who is home for the Holidays. She excitedly chose a yarn from my collection—two beautifully contrasting shades that perfectly reflected her vibrant personality. I started the project knowing I would need to buy more to complete the scarf. So I went to the local craft store,…
